These things are somewhat selfish, but sometimes that’s okay. Over the last two decades of my life I have put my needs last among the many things that get done in a day and sometimes that contributes to depression and anxiety symptoms. You can’t take care of others if you don’t care of yourself too. However, though I did these things for myself, they are having a positive effect throughout my life in regards to my family and my work.
1. I stopped carrying my phone around.
I’m tired of being connected all the time, every minute of every day. Over it. I don’t need to Instagram my life, and I don’t need to read your Facebook posts while I’m waiting in line at the grocery store. My phone is on my desk or in my purse when I need it to be. I have barely touched it other than to answer calls or plug in the charger. It’s awesome. This will be a permanent change.
2. I subscribed to a virtual closet.
As a mom, my kids always get stuff before I do, that’s just a normal way of life. And I’m normally a t-shirt and pants kind of girl, occasionally a skirt here and there.
In December I signed up for a free 30 day trial of Gwynnie Bee after I saw a friend mention it on Facebook. This month I decided to continue the subscription through the year, because it’s nice to have something to wear that hasn’t been through hell and back when I go to my son’s basketball games or when I’m out grocery shopping, or when I’m visiting the middle school to help out on volunteer days. It’s also nice to hear compliments from my husband on what I’m wearing.
I get new things to wear every week without buying them, it’s like borrowing from a friend’s closet only you don’t have to pay a big dry cleaning bill. That’s the other thing, I almost never buy anything that requires dry cleaning, so I get to wear things that I wouldn’t normally buy for myself. This will definitely a permanent change for the remainder of the year as well. It’s reasonably priced and even if I only wear the outfit at home, it makes me feel better about my efforts to get out of bed, get dressed, and be a functional human being on a regular basis.
3. I said no.
wanted expected stuff, and I actually said no. I always intend to say no, or I think I’ll be able to and then I somehow end up convinced to do things anyway. Not this time – I held my ground and said an actual no, and I meant it.